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I told him that I realized this is an emotional time for him, and then suggested that he might be self-medicating. He said he probably was, then asked me for more. I said no.

I feel guilty for giving him the medication in the first place.

I want to help, but I don't think I can. I feel like I’ve been a horrible friend.

— Horrible Friend

Dear Friend: You are right — you should not have given your medication to anyone else. In addition to the fact that you need your medication to treat your own illness, you are not a physician and can’t prescribe an appropriate and safe medication and dosage for another person.

However, addicts tend to be persuasive and manipulative. Your friend counted on you to respond with generosity and compassion, and you did. I hope you won’t make the same mistake again. He obviously needs professional help, and making this suggestion is the most you should do.

Dear Amy: I’m responding to the question from “Widower,” who wondered when it was OK to start dating after the death of his wife of 40 years.

My late wife passed away 19 years ago (may she rest in peace).

My current wife brought a condolence casserole to the house — and didn't go home.

Best 19 years ever!

— Not Quite Newlywed

Dear Not Quite: Never underestimate the magical powers of a good casserole.

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