Ask Amy: Remote grandmother struggles to connect
You can ask him: “What did it feel like when Mom said that to you?” Reassure him: “You know that you are 100 percent perfecto, exactly as you are, and you’re growing tall and healthy just like that tree over there…?”
And follow up with some gentle statements: “Sometimes Mom says tough things – and I know it can be hard – but I don’t think she means to hurt anyone’s feelings.”
Dear Amy: “Leigh” added to your advice to the “Widower,” about moving on and dating after the death of a spouse. Leigh told about how her father’s choice to find another loving partner was a tribute to his love for her late mother.
Her words moved my stone-cold heart. What a beautiful soul!
I mean WOW! What an amazing way to look at a situation. She is so right! I wish we all could be more like her.
– Natalia
Dear Natalia: “Leigh’s” parents taught her how to love well.
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