Ask Amy: Remote grandmother struggles to connect
Dear Amy: My only granddaughter is 17 years old.
Her mother was my only daughter, but she died 15 years ago.
We have lived 1,600 miles apart for years, now.
When she was going to turn 12, my husband and I flew her out to our house and she traveled with us for about three weeks.
We bonded well. I thought everything was going great when we dropped her off back at home with her father and stepmother.
Since then she has pretty much ignored us; she never answers her phone, and rarely answers texts.
I've written letters, sent stamped self-addressed envelopes and paper, but only received one letter back.
We send birthday and Christmas cards (always with a check, which is always cashed), but no response, no thank you — nothing.
I think I'll continue to send gifts but stop when she turns 18 next year.
I may continue sending cards, but I’m not really sure if I should cut out the communication.