Ask Amy: Addict in recovery wonders about disclosure
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Dear Amy: I am a recovering addict. I have been clean been for over 20 years.
I was in a very mentally and physically abusive relationship with my first husband (the father of my children), and he has since passed away.
Finally, I met the love of my life, and when we first met, he made some judgmental comments about people who use drugs.
Once I became aware of his attitude, I was afraid to say anything that might ruin our relationship.
I am very proud of myself that I beat the odds and I am now very successful and have a wonderful life with him. We have been together for five years.
I have told him about most of my life before him. I have never lied to him, but I have also never mentioned that part of my life.
I struggle with this because I want to be honest, and I want him to know everything about me.
I feel like I'm being deceitful in a way, but I also feel like this should be left in the past. I shouldn’t worry about it because we are very happy together and we plan on getting married soon.
What are your thoughts?
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