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The wedding was held at the original venue, with no apparent downsizing.
Should I acknowledge the wedding with a card and or gift?
– Disappointed in Connecticut
Dear Disappointed: You seem determined to believe that this bride deliberately disinvited you to her wedding, so you’re off the hook for sending a gift.
However, I wonder how the bride is supposed to know that the invitation was lost in the mail.
Your reliance on paper communication might have been part of the problem, here. Their wedding website might have answered any lingering questions, as well as allowing you to communicate with the couple quickly.
Dear Amy: “Offended” was put out because her combative niece wanted a wedding invitation sent to her father’s home, instead of her own new apartment.
Thank you for pointing out that this aunt had her own part to play in this dynamic. If you don’t respond dramatically to family drama, most times it seems to gradually lose steam.
– Been There
Dear Been There: It can be very hard not to take the bait.
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