Ask Amy: Grandparents’ proximity might breed contempt
When we're taking photos, they'll say things like, "Take your hair down!" or "Take your sweatshirt off. Come on, look cute." This has been getting on my nerves, and I can't help but take these comments as insults, like they think my appearance needs changing.
How do I convey my feelings to them without causing a stir?
Am I simply being oversensitive?
– Unfashionable and Unhappy
Dear Unfashionable: Your friends are behaving like two lovely little bullies.
I suggest that you pull up your hoodie and be brave enough to cause a stir.
During your next group Instagram session, play up your anti-style and have some fun. Tell them, as many times as it takes: “I think you two would look great in jeans and Ts. But I accept that you like the way you look. I do, too. It’s your style. But Imma be me. So please, stop trying to force me to be different than I am.”
Dear Amy: Thank you for suggesting that “Concerned Daughter” turn to her mother’s physician for support to have her mother stop driving.
I have had this tough conversation with many of my elder patients. I see it as my duty to continue to take care of them and offer them accurate and honest recommendations, even when it is hard to do so.
– Grannie’s GP
Dear GP: Thank you so much for this supportive response.
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