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You seem to see this only through the prism of how abandoned you feel. That is certainly valid, but it should not be your only reaction.

You could feel compassion, for instance, for a person who responded to familial duty.

When she says, “I didn’t want things to change,” this should not be the end of your conversation, but the start.

Dear Amy: Responding to “Concerned Daughter,” who was trying to get her mother to stop driving, my beloved stepdad passed away last year, but lived with macular degeneration.

His physician told him it was time to stop driving. He went to the DMV to surrender his license and get a state ID.

The clerk asked, “Are you sure you want to do this? You can’t change your mind. You understand? This is irrevocable.”

He looked her in the eye and firmly said, “Take the damn license.”

 

This was characteristic of his acceptance of reality, but also reflected his concern for those he might put in danger by continuing to drive.

– Proud Stepdaughter

Dear Proud: He sounds like my kind of guy.

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