Ask Amy: Reluctant groom inspires fiance’s last stand
We all agreed that we would split the cost of a headstone, with each responsible for 25 percent of the cost.
My sister said she would take care of securing a headstone, but she never did.
Our mom's 100th birthday is this year. Since this was at a standstill, I took it upon myself to get (and pay for) a headstone.
I sent an email to each of my siblings with a photo of the installed headstone and detailed cost around Mother's Day.
I offered to be flexible about payment options. I've only heard from one sibling.
We are all on text/email terms, and I’m wondering how to kindly ask again.
– KK
Dear KK: Wait another couple of weeks. Email your siblings as a group, saying, “I’m circling back around to make sure you all received the email I sent on Mother’s Day. Attached is a photo of the headstone I got for Mom’s grave, along with the cost. So far, I’ve only heard back from Kathy. Let me know if you have any questions about this. I hope we get to see each other in person soon…”
Dear Amy: Thank you for your compassionate response to “Struggling Dude in the Midwest,” the young dad who was so anxious about his stress and the state of his relationships as a result of the pandemic.
This got to me: “Tiptoe out into the world in stages, and you’ll encounter parents of young children and other people (like me) who are also fumbling, blinking, and gingerly emerging.”
– Grateful
Dear Grateful: My heart broke for this man. I hope he feels less alone.
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