Ask Amy: Reluctant groom inspires fiance’s last stand
Dear Amy: My guy and I have been dating for five years, engaged for three, and living together for two.
It’s a second marriage for us both; we are seniors.
Every time I discuss it, he says he’s not ready to set a date, but doesn’t know why. I said I moved in with him because I thought we shared the same long-term goals, and if we don’t, I need to make another plan.
He said, “I will get married to make you happy, but I don’t feel like I’m ready.”
I can easily support myself, and we both contribute to our shared household. It’s his home.
He recently updated his will to bequeath his two homes and a huge amount of money to me. I’m confused.
Marriage, more than money, is so important to me.
I don’t understand why he ever asked me to marry him if he doesn’t want to.
I don’t want to force him to get married. His ex-wife cheated on him decades ago and took half of his hard-earned money in the divorce.
I’m going to make one last attempt and ask if a prenuptial agreement would help him feel better about setting a date.