Ask Amy: Mom would like to be offered a cup of joe
If one cannot Zoom in for the wedding, is one off the hook for a gift?
– Chagrinned Guest
Dear Chagrinned: If you are asking about registries, yes – registries are commonly used, and have been for a long time.
Is this a gift grab? Well, gifts are traditionally given to celebrate weddings. If you don’t attend a wedding, you are not obligated to give a wedding gift, although some invited guests do give.
Wedding guests generally give gifts because they care about the couple and want to express this through their generosity.
You obviously don’t want to attend this wedding, and you certainly don’t want to give a gift – so don’t!
Dear Amy: Like “Concerned Daughter,” I, too, faced the dilemma of how to get mom out of her car. She was clearly driving by feel, due to her waning eyesight.
Hearing from her eye doctor that her vision was too poor to drive did the trick. It was much easier to handle that news from a disinterested professional.
– Been There
Dear Been There: This is such a tough moment in a family’s life; many people have responded by saying how helpful their parents’ physicians were.
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