Ask Amy: Wife is riding the tilt-a-whirl of husband’s addiction
You obviously aren’t capable of delivering an ultimatum, because you won’t deliver the consequence. So perhaps instead, you should work on your own personal courage and emotional development.
If you are constantly afraid that your partner will leave you, the bravest and most courageous response is to release him.
You might find insight by reading the classic, “Women Who Love Too Much: When you Keep Wishing & Hoping He’ll Change,” written by therapist Robin Norwood (2008, Pocket Books).
Dear Amy: In February, my husband began receiving hospice care in our home after two years of his health deteriorating.
We live on the West Coast and our daughters are in NYC.
Our younger daughter calls regularly and asks about us.
Our older daughter rarely calls and when I call her, she seems distracted. She responds to my conversation-starters with monosyllabic answers, and never asks any questions about our lives.
I am particularly hurt because she seems not to care about what a rough time this is for me, especially following a year of isolation due to the pandemic.
I suspect she is in denial about her dad’s impending death.
Both daughters and their partners will soon be visiting.
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