Ask Amy: Hopeful bride wonders about ‘shacking up’
It’s not an issue of money, just disinclination.
I wish we’d said no last year. How can we politely decline for this year and keep my friendship?
— Don’t Want to Attend
Dear Don’t Want to Attend: Even though you haven’t been formally re-invited to this wedding, you can easily and politely decline this date-changed wedding. Just make sure you give the family plenty of advance notice to adjust their guest list.
You can write to your friend: “We’re so happy that ‘Adele’s’ wedding has been rescheduled, but unfortunately, we won’t be able to attend. This last year has taken a lot out of us, and we just can’t make the trip, I’m afraid. We’re so sorry, and hope you have a wonderful celebration.”
Send the couple a nice gift, along with a personal note sharing your regrets.
Dear Amy: I loved your pithy advice to “Heartbroken,” whose no-account, two-timing guy continued to jerk her around: “Block his number, and then raise your standards.”
Wow! I wonder if she will follow this excellent and simple advice.
— A Fan
Dear Fan: Sometimes, the responses just write themselves.
“Heartbroken” might not follow my advice, but the light might go on for another reader.
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(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
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