Ask Amy: Hopeful bride wonders about ‘shacking up’
Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. I was previously married for 14 years to an abusive man.
My boyfriend knows my history.
Last night, I brought up the prospect of us getting married.
In response, he stated that he doesn’t believe in marriage.
He previously was engaged to his ex for two years.
In the past, he has brought up many aspects of what our bachelor/bachelorette party would look like, what song he would sing as I walked down the aisle, and what type of engagement ring I might like.
When I brought that up to him last night, he said those were hypothetical conversations, and that this didn’t mean he wanted to get married.
He said the fact I was married for 14 years left a sour taste in his mouth.
I didn’t get the good marriage experience before, and I’ve dreamed of getting my happy ever after.
He asked if this was a deal breaker for me, and I said I didn’t know.