Ask Amy: Long-ago encounters may yield current offspring
A more judicious course might be for your husband to at least attempt to follow through regarding his own DNA questions and these possible offspring or to finally settle into his certitude that they are not related to him.
He might be extremely resistant to exploring a possible connection to them, but I think it is wise for you both to grasp the fact that this question seems to have dangled over your entire marriage. Your husband thought this possibility was important enough to tell you about it, and now you are both worried about it decades later.
You are correct that any DNA matches need to be included in the collection data, but at the rate testing seems to be increasing worldwide, matches down the line are always possible.
Dear Amy: My boyfriend and his 20-year-old son moved into my home two years ago.
Four months ago, his son committed a felony.
He had illegal drugs mailed to my home from across state lines. We found out the package contained illegal drugs.
We delivered the drugs to his dealer and said we would not call the police if he moved to another state to live with his mother.
Now, four months later, the son is coming to visit our state.
I told my boyfriend that his son was not welcome to sleep here. I didn’t care if the son came over when my boyfriend was at the house, but he could not stay overnight.
My boyfriend said he would respect my wishes, but now he keeps asking if his son can stay for a night or two.