Ask Amy: Loved one is heartbroken over ex’s profession
— Somehow Still Hurt
Dear Still Hurt: You say you shouldn’t care, but of course you should care – and you do care! You care because this was someone you loved and, I assume, still do love.
Your caring and concern are evidence of your abundant compassion and humanity. Your grief is evidence of your powerlessness over a situation you don’t like but cannot control.
I hope you won’t judge your former partner harshly. That won’t help either of you.
Love him from a distance through this tough time, and hope that he is taking care of his own health and well-being.
Unfortunately, you cannot make his choices for him – but you already know that, which is one reason why you are no longer together.
Dear Amy: I am a woman who wants to be that 17-year-old girl who graduated from high school weighing 92 pounds (soaking wet).
This older woman has gained 20 pounds since then, simply due to aging — and if that isn’t bad enough, along comes COVID, in which an additional 10 pounds has magically appeared.
Now I have no idea what size I am. I have been living in yoga pants for quite a while, which truly says that: “All is not well in the kingdom.”
I am currently having a torrid love affair with carbohydrates. To complicate matters, during COVID I have learned to hone my cooking and baking skills, which are now almost restaurant quality.