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Ask Amy: Partner’s online gaming leads to more

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My significant other (of 20 years) has had what I consider an emotional affair with a girl he met online a couple months ago, playing an online spaceship game.

He swears that it is nothing, and I'm blowing things out of proportion, and she's "just a friend.”

I happened to use his phone as a flashlight one night recently, and it was left open, revealing a “chat” session between them.

He lied to her about buying things for me (although he is currently unemployed) and told her he loved her.

Those words bother me greatly, and he continues to say it is nothing.

He has broken plans with me to play other (exclusive) games with her, and if I join his group of friends to play, he shares inside jokes with her while I'm there and he ignores me.

 

I am trying to decide if this should be a deal breaker, as he refuses to see my side, or that it hurts me to hear that "I love you" is apparently a meaningless phrase to him, that I thought was used for me and his very longtime friends.

How can I approach this subject with him so he actually hears my concerns, or should I just end things now and cut my losses?

– Confused and Hurt

Dear Confused: At the risk of being obvious, I wonder if playing online “spaceship” games is the best use of your (unemployed) guy’s time.

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