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Ask Amy: Angry granny needs more balance

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

I believe this raises a new question for people to ask of potential partners: “Have you ever been a sperm donor?”

For some this may not matter, but someone seeking a partner should go in with eyes wide open.

The reality is that at any time they could be approached by 1, 5, 10, 25, or more people who say: “This guy is my ‘father,’” and may expect to be treated as family members.

It’s something to think about in advance: Do you want to start a family with someone if your children would potentially have an unlimited number of half-siblings?

In the past, sperm donation was something that could be done anonymously, as a gift to a couple who wanted a child. That level of anonymity isn’t possible any longer.

– A Reader

Dear Reader: You bring up a valid question. I would emphasize that anyone seeking a life-partner should do their best to enter the relationship assuming that all sorts of unforeseen events (and people) will arrive to complicate matters.

Dear Amy: I agreed with your advice to an incoming college freshman regarding what college classes to take, but I always think about my mother's advice on this subject: Find out who the best teachers are and take their classes.


A good teacher will make any subject interesting and will teach you something you'll remember.

– Student of Life

Dear Student: Oh yes. Great advice. [And here’s to Professor Roland Flint, who made literature sing for me, and who changed my life.]


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