Ask Amy: Baby’s mama worries she won’t find Mr. Right
Dear Amy: I am a 35-year-old woman. I had my first child with my boyfriend eight months ago.
We were not planning on having a child together (we had only been casually dating for three months prior to the pregnancy), but he has done an amazing job in stepping up.
He does not want to get married or have any more kids.
I feel conflicted about trying to make the relationship work to keep my family together while my child is young, but I also want to find someone who wants what I want.
Given my age (I am “geriatric” in the labor and delivery world), I feel like if I don't have another child now, it will be too late.
But also, dating is the worst, and I am not sure I would meet anyone, anyway.
Do I accept that my son will be my only child and I will never get married, or should I risk breaking up my family for the small chance that I might meet someone who wants marriage and more children?
Should I be happy I had a least one child with a decent man?
– Ms. Confused
Dear Confused: Yes, you should be happy you have had a child with a decent man. But this is not the end of your story – your story is just beginning!