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Ask Amy: DNA discoveries bring forward tough truths

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

This is a simple enough question, seemingly, but I have avoided answering since I'm not sure what to say.

I don't want to lie, but I also know that honesty could cause a serious rift.

How should I respond to suit both my conscience and our friendship?

– On the Fence

Dear On the Fence: A judicious answer is called for. We do not live in judicious times, however, so let me try to provide a possible script: “I assume it’s obvious that I don’t agree with ‘Sean’ on some pretty basic matters. Most important to me, however, is how he treats you. In my opinion, he doesn’t always give you the respect I know you deserve, and I sometimes find that upsetting. The most important thing for you to know, however, is that I’ve got your back, no matter what.”

Dear Amy: I thought your answer to “Stoner – Trying to do Better” was good, but you missed an important point. This guy has obviously been self-medicating for his extreme mood swings. He should have a mental health screening.


– Former Stoner

Dear Former: I addressed the fact that as his pot use decreased, his underlying issues were emerging. Yes, I agree that he should get a thorough screening.


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