Ask Amy: Spouse doesn’t want to whine about wine
In short, if his night-wine affects YOU, then you should initiate a conversation about it.
If his glass of wine at bedtime doesn’t directly affect you (and it doesn’t seem to), then you should keep your thoughts to yourself.
In my opinion, your basic assumption is off-kilter. More likely, his weight gain is the result of a dozen little and large choices he makes throughout the day, not the timing of his nightly drink.
Furthermore, if he has struggled with his weight and has managed to successfully reduce, then he knows the basic rules of weight-loss.
If you want to continue to support his weight loss, you should ask him, “What’s the best way I can support you as you work toward your goals?”
I hope he answers, “Just continue loving me, just as I am.”
I’ll offer an (unsolicited) opinion on how to have a happy marriage: Learn to fight. Learn to forgive. And try mightily to love one another through thick and thicker.
Dear Amy: My mom and I generally have a good relationship, but she does one thing that is really inconsiderate.
I am a light sleeper. I normally wake up around 9 a.m.
My mom is a very active person and insists on exercising every morning before she goes to work.
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