Ask Amy: Spouse doesn’t want to whine about wine
Dear Amy: I am married to a wonderful, kind, and generous man.
We have a very good marriage. We've never had a real argument or nagged each other about anything.
I am worried about his weight, however.
He had lost a lot of weight, but now he's regaining it.
This is because he has a glass of wine just before bed.
I don't mind his daily glass of wine, but I wish he'd have it at dinnertime so that his body has time to process it.
I know he enjoys his bedtime snack, so I'm loath to bring it up.
How do I gently and kindly ask him to forego it at bedtime without sounding like a nag?
– Worried
Dear Worried: If your husband’s nightly glass of wine makes him surly or uncommunicative, or interferes with his sleep, your shared intimacy or sex life, then you get to bring it up.
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