Ask Amy: Funeral mix-up creates family break
Dear Amy: My father passed away recently, and I was responsible for planning the funeral, during COVID.
In order to minimize everyone’s risk, we chose to hold a church service and a graveside service.
Due to a mix-up with the time for the graveside service, several people who did not feel comfortable going into the church — including our adult child — missed the graveside service.
Our adult child is blaming us and will not return calls, emails, texts, etc.
I’m at a loss about what to do.
I am grieving my father and also the loss of a relationship with our adult child and their family.
We just want to have communication, and to be allowed to see our preteen grandchildren and our adult child.
Dear Grieving: If there are things you wish you had done differently regarding the arrangements you made, you should take responsibility, apologize, and affirm your child’s disappointment and hurt over this mix-up.