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Ask Amy: Wife’s risky behavior escalates

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

He already knew my birthdate and I warned him not to post it.

Was I right?

– Private

Dear Private: Yes, you have the right not to provide your personal data and have it posted on the internet. If you don’t want to do this, stay firm.

Dear Amy: “Back Off, Buddy” asked about a friendly but drunk and invasive couple in their local bar. If they set limits on this couple, the staff will help them out.

Bartenders generally keep a good eye on what patrons are doing and saying.

If people are told to back off, politely, as you suggested — but then ignored — most likely the bar staff will have a word with them.


Being friendly with the couple sends the message to the staff that you are OK with their behavior.

– Cheers!

Dear Cheers!: This is helpful. Thank you.


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