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Ask Amy: Stories of secret-keeping from the vault

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Let's assume that your girlfriend is upset with her mother on several fronts. I think it is completely understandable that she would be quite conflicted and thrown off, at least at first.

Also vexing is the idea that her mother would confide in you, but not in her. This put you in a terrible spot.

The best response would have been for you to say, "I'm really not comfortable with this. Now that I know your news, it would be best if you gave her a call before I get home. I'm sure she'd like to talk to you about it."

(June 2011)



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