Ask Amy: Nightmare bosses bust through boundaries
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Today’s topic is: “Whoa – That’s Inappropriate!”
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Dear Amy: I am about to take a job at a prestigious professional services firm.
My boss makes everyone stay at his house in a city out of state for regional group meetings a few times a year.
We have to stay in his house, in his daughter's room, in the spare rooms, etc.
I think this is wrong, and it is not something I want to do. However, now I feel like I have to do this, because everyone else has been doing it for years.
I could get a hotel, but it will make me seem like I am not part of the team.
I worry about privacy, about feeling awkward, and about my tendency not to be myself when I stay at other people's houses. What should I do?