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Ask Amy: Facebook forces friendship fractures

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Facebooked: I shared your query with Nicky Colaco, a representative of Facebook, who noted that Facebook's terms of service specify that users should not post offensive or malicious content.

"The goal of these policies is to strike a very delicate balance between giving people the freedom to express their opinions and viewpoints, even those that may be controversial to some, and respecting the rights and feelings of others," Colaco wrote.

"We encourage people to let us know when they see something they think might violate our standards. Our team of investigators reviews and takes action on reported content according to our policies."

Your boyfriend's postings qualify as malicious, in my view. You can report this by clicking the "Report" button on the Facebook page, block him on Facebook and have no further contact with him.

June 2011

Dear Amy: I would like some advice about how to let friends and family know that I would not like any pictures of my family posted on Facebook or any other social networking site. What the heck is the best way to do this without sounding like a freak?


– Concerned

Dear Concerned: I remember back at the dawn of Facebook (say, two or three years ago) when I advocated in this space for the concept of "permission" regarding the posting of photos.

Oh, how young and naive I was.

Now that I’ve been active Facebook both personally and professionally, I know better.


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