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Dear Readers: Every year during this time I step away from my column to work on other creative projects. I hope you enjoy these “Best Of” Q&A from 10 years ago. Today’s topic is: “Friending.”

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Dear Amy: More than seven months have passed since my boyfriend of almost a year and I broke up. Since that time, he has dated two other women. He has been with his current girlfriend for several months.

I'm also seeing someone.

I understand a certain amount of trash-talking occurs after a breakup, but I feel he's been inappropriate and I'm not sure how to handle it.

I've refrained from airing what I disliked about our relationship. He, on the other hand, has talked to my current boyfriend about why he shouldn't date me and recently publicly bashed me on his Facebook page.

This includes calling me a "constant embarrassment," mentioning a much-regretted trip to the hospital due to an alcohol overdose (which happened a long time ago).

He is publicly exaggerating events from my past. I sent him a cordial message expressing how this post has hurt my feelings and is inappropriate, and he hasn't responded or taken action to delete this very public post. What should I do?

– Facebooked

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