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Ask Amy: Teen forces gay friend out of the closet

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Dear Readers: Every year during this time I step away from my column to work on other creative projects. I hope you enjoy these (edited) “Best Of” Q&As from 10 years ago.

Today’s topic is: Coming out.

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Dear Amy: I am a 15-year-old girl.

I have known my friend "James" for 10 years. We are close. We attend the same school and church. Our religion is against gay marriage.


A few days ago, I was on Facebook but it was logged into my friend "Tiffany's" account. I didn't realize I was logged into her account until I read a message that James sent her. James told Tiffany that he was gay.

He said he didn't know how to come out and tell other people. He was also slamming our religion. He has been called gay since sixth grade but always denied it.

I told my sister what I found out, and then she told my father.

My dad told James' dad, and the whole thing got back to James. James now hates me. He says that I shouldn't have been looking through Tiffany's messages, and that I should have kept the news about him to myself. I told him the whole story, but he doesn't believe me.


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