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Ask Amy: Parents teach daughter how to be a 'sugar mama'

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: You should not have encouraged “Hate to Ask” to ask for a portion of her mother’s inheritance gift to a friend.

The mother DID know that a mutual fund could grow, and the inheritance to her daughter wouldn't, and this was her choice.

I believe that the friend got what they deserved, and so did she.

— Disappointed

Dear Disappointed: I do believe that people sometimes designate others as beneficiaries to accounts, and then basically forget about it – but your response is valid.



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