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Ask Amy: Matron of honor declines serving at summer wedding

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

For me, this is a moving reminder that, as people, we will always want what we want, and will work very hard to get it. I hope that we will all be able to spend time together very soon.

Your friend has given you plenty of advance notice, stepping out of her matron-of-honor role for a very good reason. The only thing harder than flying for several hours with an infant, would be to do so while perhaps wearing a mask and trying to maintain distance from others.

You two are very close friends. This means that you will naturally include and involve one another in these important lifetime events. Doing so is how you acknowledge and celebrate your friendship.

These invitations do not shackle you to attendance, however. I assume your friend doesn’t expect you to attend her child’s baptism; she is inviting you because she cannot imagine not inviting you.

That’s the way you feel about her, too, and these mutual invitations are an expression of your closeness. That’s something to celebrate.

Dear Amy: My sister and I have been close throughout our lives. We are in our 70s.


She lives alone now, and I think the isolation of COVID has contributed to her lack of interest in being in touch with me more often.

Whereas for me, this isolation has made me want to be in touch with her more often.

Should I just leave her alone, or should I continue to reach out to her regardless of her unresponsiveness?

I feel our sisterhood is being abandoned.


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