Ask Amy: ‘Barking’ episodes make partner flee
I am also afraid that if I don't leave, I will never be able to be my true self and live in peace.
What should I do? Should I stay for financial security, or leave with the hope of being happy?
— Unhappy
Dear Unhappy: If you hate your husband, with no hopes of reconciling the relationship, then you should leave.
You don’t seem to have done any research regarding how divorce would affect your financial situation. You should research the laws in your state and speak with a lawyer. Dividing your marital assets might provide you with a small nest egg.
You should also consider the impact divorce would have on your other relationships in order to prepare yourself for some emotional instability.
You have at least 10 years of earning power left before retirement. Your financial planning should include a realistic budget for living a pared-down life.
Dear Amy: Thank you so much for promoting the concept of “radical acceptance” in response to the question from “Secret Mean Girl,” who had moved home during the pandemic and was extremely judgmental about her family members’ obesity and unhealthy choices.
— Radically Accepted
Dear Accepted: I gave “Secret Mean Girl” a lot of credit for admitting to her own unhealthy thought patterns.
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