Ask Amy: Mom’s martyrdom creates a man-boy monster
Most importantly, perhaps, is the effect that this chaos could have on your own sobriety.
You need to nurture yourself. This can be challenging if you mainly view your worth through your martyrdom to others.
Attend sobriety-support meetings. Seek perspective from your own circle of loved ones, and listen carefully to what they tell you.
Understand that you will not change your partner, but you can definitely change yourself.
Dear Amy: I am an old man who has acquired many firearms during my life.
It’s the right time to get rid of many of my possessions and I’m conflicted as to whether I should sell these firearms or simply have them destroyed.
On one hand, I could use the money. On the other, I don’t want any harm done by whoever ends up with these items. Advice, please?
— Looking to Unload
Dear Looking: I applaud both your choice and your concern about your firearms collection.
You should sell these firearms AND have them destroyed through a gun buyback program.
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