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Ask Amy: Friend wants to ‘out’ abuser to others

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

A lawyer would lead you through this process, but a negotiated agreement of $500/month for a specified period of time might ultimately be the less-expensive route for you to take.

Dear Amy: “Upset Friends” reported that they disapproved of their married friend’s choice to engage in a relationship with a woman not his wife, when his wife was suffering from dementia.

Thank you so much for urging these Upset Friends not to judge this man unless they had walked in his shoes!

— Been There

Dear Been There: I highly recommend my friend journalist Barry Peterson’s memoir: “Jan's Story: Love Lost to the Long Goodbye of Alzheimer's,” (2010, Behler Publishing).

Witnessing the devastation of dementia and the multiple ethical and relationship choices brought up by this disease challenged and changed my own opinion.

 

Jan Peterson’s early-onset Alzheimer’s eventually took her entire identity. After years of caregiving, her husband Barry eventually developed a relationship with another woman, who joined him in his loving caregiving for his wife. They called themselves, “a family of three.”

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