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Do I let the friendship go?

— Bereft

Dear Bereft: If you are an agnostic, then you are not a likely candidate for recruitment into this Christian group. As much as this withdrawal hurts, I don’t think you should necessarily assign this reason, although the fact that you don’t, won’t, and can’t belong means that your friendship is ending, because your friend has turned toward something, and she has been taught to believe that her choice necessitates that she turn away from you.

Any group requiring absolute exclusivity is not a group I’d ever want to be a part of, but this is not up to me, or you.

Unfortunately, you don’t seem to have a choice but to let the friendship go. Friendships wax, wane, and end for all sorts of reasons. This is especially painful after such a long history, and at your age, because you understand how rare intimate friendships are, and how irreplaceable people are.

I’m very sorry you are experiencing this loss. Her choice is not an indictment of you or your qualities as a friend; as hard as this is, you should not take this as a personal rejection.

Dear Amy: When my husband and I first met, he confided that he was infertile. He wanted to be transparent about it.

I appreciated the honesty and at that time I could take it or leave it when it came to having children.

However, a year and a half ago I got pregnant (no I wasn't cheating). We actually got pregnant! We were both surprised and excited.

Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage.

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