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Ask Amy: Adoption complicates clan’s wedding plans

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My biological great-aunt and uncle adopted me when I was 2 years old. I am now 20, and I’m planning my wedding. My adoptive parents are my world, and I couldn’t be more grateful to them.

I have a very close relationship with my mom, and plan on including her in my wedding, just as anyone normally would.

Because it was an open adoption and my adoptive parents are my great-aunt and uncle, I do know my biological mom.

She and I have more of a friendly bond than a mother/daughter bond. I am getting married next year, and I want to include her somehow, but my adoptive mom gets jealous and hurt about certain things when it comes to including her.

How can I incorporate my biological mom, but not hurt my adoptive mom’s feelings?

Also, should I give my biological mom a corsage to wear?

 

I’m not sure what to do.

— Unsure Bride

Dear Unsure: This is tricky, because all of your parents are also related to one another (I take it that one of your biological parents would be your parents’ niece or nephew). There is no doubt a lot of challenging history there, before and after your birth and adoption.

In my opinion, you should invite your biological mother to the wedding, and give her a seat in the front row, along with other family members. Yes, it would be nice for you to give her a corsage.

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