Ask Amy: Friend who is reeling needs soft place to land
Let’s stipulate the usuals: Your friend could be experiencing some health-related or cognitive issues that have upped his libido and lowered his social stop signs.
There are a few legitimate reasons that might explain his behavior, but they don’t excuse his behavior. Most importantly, none of this should matter (to you) because no matter why he has been doing this, your response should be consistent: “Stop. I don’t like that. Don’t do that again, understand?”
The challenge to your friendship brought about by his behavior is his problem, and he’ll have to figure out how to fix it.
Dear Amy: “Anxious Wife” wanted her husband to help more with household chores, like vacuuming.
This may sound trite, but all of the members of my household HATE to vacuum with the heat of a thousand suns. Our otherwise tidy house would look like the Sahara if we followed our instincts.
We got one of those robot vacuums and problem solved!
— Dust Free
Dear Dust Free: Great suggestion. If this spells the beginning of the robot revolution, then I say: Bring it on!
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