Ask Amy: Long-ago cheating leaves wife ruminating
Dear Amy: Almost 20 years ago when my husband and I were just 19 years old, he cheated on me.
Twenty years on, I'm still having a hard time trusting him.
Will I ever be able to trust him — or will I always feel this way?
What can I do to start trusting him?
I feel like I have some form of PTSD from it. He says he was young and made a mistake, but is that even a legitimate excuse? He has apologized so many times.
I just don't know what to do. I want to live free. It is so time consuming worrying about him and trying to track him.
I am constantly accusing him of things that turn out to be nothing.
We have five children together, and he is a wonderful dad and husband.
I know I'll regret it later if I don't get it together now.
How should I handle this?