Ask Amy: These office mates cannot be friends
Dear Trying to Please: You should ask yourself why you believe that you are of so little consequence that you can’t even answer a simple question, posed respectfully. Remember: Anyone can ask for anything, but that doesn’t obligate you to agree to their “ask.”
The question is: “Hey, could we stay at a pet-friendly place, because I would like to bring my dog….”
Your answer is, “I vote no. We are all leaving our kids and pets behind.”
If your other friends are co-planning and co-paying for this getaway, and they all want to spend their time with your friend’s dog, then you will be overruled. Then it would be time for you to find a way to make peace with your disappointment.
Dear Amy: I signed my letter to you, “Sad and Confused.” I wondered whether to travel to see my 87-year-old father, who was dying.
I wanted to give you an update. We did go to visit my dad. We were able to see him for about a half-hour. During that time he was completely cognizant and lucid. It was amazing. We talked about the family and even had him laughing. There were no sad goodbyes.
I just want to say that I wouldn't trade that half-hour for anything. It was worth the 14-hour drive and all the complications.
— No Longer Sad and Confused
Dear No Longer Sad: You did the right thing.
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