Life Advice



Ask Amy: Husband’s driving puts wife into a skid

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: Responding to the multitude of people wrestling with the issue of being poor housekeepers, when my husband and I were young, we were very messy. We didn’t really see it, ourselves. Family were undoubtedly talking about us behind our backs.

Eventually, my aunt found something to say that we could hear. She said that we should spend our money as follows: A roof over our heads, food on the table, and third – a housekeeper. This we could hear.

We didn’t feel judged for being messy, just not doing something about it.

Over 30 years later, we have a very clean house!

— Clean and Happy

Dear Clean: Your aunt’s opinion, expressed in a neutral and straightforward way, meant that you could really hear her without becoming defensive.



(You can email Amy Dickinson at or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)


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