Ask Amy: Wedding brings on in-law exclusion
Dear Sleep-deprived: You are responsible for taking care of yourself and seeing to your own needs. No one else can do that for you.
You have two reasonable choices: To ask for a bedroom with a door, or to drive home each night.
I cannot imagine that anyone would be affronted if – after many years – you decided to make a change and stop sleeping in the loft.
In fact, if you chose to return to your home and sleep in your own bed each night, your fellow family members might actually be happy to have more sleeping space available in the group house. And you could show up in the mornings with fresh bagels/donuts/coffee for the group.
Just make sure you aren’t tired and/or inebriated when you drive home.
Dear Amy: Responding to Red Faced, who worried about people bringing gifts to a “no gifts” party — on my 80th birthday, my wife invited over 100 friends and relatives to my birthday party.
Knowing that most all of them would bring a gift (even though told NOT TO on the invitations), I asked them to bring a new unwrapped children’s toy, which they all did.
The days after the party, I delivered all of the toys to our local children’s hospital (Children’s Hospital of Orange County).
They almost did not fit into my van!
The hospital staff brought some of the children down to the lobby where the gifts were unloaded, and the kids were so excited.
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