Ask Amy: Spouse’s spending creates a debt trap
— Wondering Wife
Dear Wondering: There is no need for tact here because there is also no need for you to tell your husband that his clothes are too tight.
He is a grown man. He has the right to be uncomfortable. He might be trying to use his tight-fitting clothing as an incentive to take off the weight he has gained. If he asks for help, then give him the benefit of your point of view. Otherwise, let it go.
Dear Amy: “Too Much Stuff” wanted to discourage her friend from giving her so many gifts.
We made this rule in our family as my mother downsized and got older: Any gift must be something you can eat up, drink up, or use up.” No more stuff!
— Less Clutter
Dear Less: This rule is a great gift. Thank you!
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(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
