Ask Amy: Scammed by a hacker, revenge would be sweet
Dear Betrayed: Your first stop should be to a grief counselor and/or a grief support group. Your local hospice center and hospital will have recommendations for local resources. This is vital.
Write down your thoughts. On paper, refute every single lie and misleading statement you are aware of. I also think that you should correct the record and defend yourself at every turn, if you have the energy (you might not).
This is a terrible betrayal, and, unfortunately, you may not uncover his motivations for lying about you.
Buddhist thinker Pema Chodron is my go-to sage and comfort. You can dip in and out of her book, “When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times” (2016, Shambhala), and find wisdom, comfort, and healing.
Dear Amy: I thought your advice to “Worried” was way off base. It is not a daughter’s responsibility to take care of her dad with dementia. As long as he has a wife, he is her responsibility. The daughter can help pay for his care, if necessary.
— Disappointed
Dear Disappointed: I hope you warn your spouse.
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