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Does the age-old tradition we applied to the first daughter also apply to the son, in that the bride’s family picks up the bulk of the wedding costs?
And perhaps the bigger question, at one point in life do you stop expecting your parents to pay for your wedding?
— Wedding Stressed
Dear Stressed: At no point in life should anyone expect their parents to pay for their wedding.
Couples should be responsible for financing their own weddings — using their own savings, and gifts from their parents (if possible).
Ideally, you should arrive at an amount you are willing and able to give to each child (daughters and sons) on the occasion of their (first) wedding. They can put the money toward a celebration, the down payment on a home, a trip, or plow it into their retirement account.
You need to talk with your son and his fiancee to see what their plans are and what they are hoping to receive from you.
Dear Amy: Responding to the question from “Lady in Waiting,” who was contemplating marriage to a guy who was basically siphoning off her money — the guy is a deadbeat. I’m glad you tried to warn her off.
— Know the Type
Dear Know: I wonder if she’ll listen.
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