Ask Amy: Future husband sings a ‘me’ tune
Dear Amy: I want a woman’s perspective.
My soon-to-be wife is now hesitant to marry me because I want to live elsewhere during the winter.
I’m a 30-year-old business owner and my company doesn’t really do work from Christmas to March. My fiancee and I have talked about how I will go on a three-week mountain trip in Belize, followed by a four-week hiatus trip to Costa Rica during the frigid months.
We have decided not to have children, so we can travel and live a fun and stress-free life. I have discussed buying a house in Belize this winter, for my future winter hideaway.
Last night, her tone changed. She says I’m not allowed to go away longer than one month all winter.
She has her own cleaning company so she can’t leave her clients for more than a week.
So here I am, 30 years old, on the cusp of marriage, with ambitions to retire before 40, letting her live rent- and expense-free in my house that I paid for.
And now she says I can’t enjoy my winter months in a sun-filled oasis?
I would have arranged to pay for all expenses/mortgage/plowing/wood stacked in basement/etc. – but she’s still mad.
So now I have to put my life on hold and ride the couch at home all winter, or should I go and live my life?
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