Ask Amy: Pandemic porch-drinking pal needs push
Because he is belligerent and forgetful at night when he is drunk, you should lay down the law during the day. Tell him, “I have something important to say. You cannot come over to my house unless I invite you. I’m very worried about your drinking. I want you to know that if you show up uninvited, I’m going to take you home right away.” And then when this scenario presents itself, follow through.
If your friend seems dangerously drunk and ill, you should take him to the hospital (or call 911).
Alcoholics Anonymous offers an impressive array of online meetings, so it is now possible to virtually attend a meeting, any hour of the day or night. People who want to give sobriety a try should check aa-intergroup.org for more information.
Dear Amy: For the last four years, a group of friends from high school have gathered for an annual weekend getaway.
I have always been invited, but due to life events (grad school, a newborn baby, or financial constraints), I have always graciously declined.
I was finally at a point where I was excited to attend this year’s outing. Time passed with no invitation, so I reached out to the friend who organizes the event, who told me that all of the spots were filled, but if somebody dropped out, I could join.
Not only did I not receive an invite, but I found out that their group is much larger this year, with outside friends of the group getting invited.
Am I wrong to feel hurt and left out by my friends here, or did the previous four years of declining the trip excuse them?
I am now questioning my friendship with these guys.
Left Out
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