Ask Amy: Stressed wife might need a ’she shed’
Dear Amy: I have known my husband for almost 40 years. We’ve been married for 30 years.
I am trying to become healthier in body and mind. I practice yoga, and I am evolving and growing.
My husband chooses to do nothing to take care of his body; he eats whatever and whenever he wants, and has always chosen to be sedentary.
He just retired due to health issues (and his age). I’ve just retired, also.
He doesn't choose to go places. He doesn’t even get out of the house very often.
We live on a large property, and even though he uses a cane, he could still at least go out to his garage or onto our porch, but he chooses not to.
I have literally begged him to give me my space, since we both worked throughout all of our marriage -- until now.
I am now battling depression and anxiety.
I took my marriage very seriously and I don't want it to end.
I have suggested counseling, and I attend therapy sessions on my own a few times a year, but he wants nothing to do with that and tells me that I need fixing -- not him.
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