Ask Amy: Husband’s secret online friendship ends abruptly
I have sent it back to her and asked her again not to send us such gifts.
I am sure that I am hurting her feelings and I don't know what to do about it.
Do you have any suggestions about how better to handle this?
Grands
Dear Grands: You are so generous – and your granddaughter obviously appreciates it very much. She is trying, in her way, to thank you and reciprocate.
I realize this is frustrating for you, but after your second admonition and correction, I think it’s time to let it go. You might be able to re-gift or donate any gift cards to someone who might use them.
Dear Amy: “Too Nice” described being so nice that people always take advantage of her.
That used to be me! Thank you for telling her that people will react poorly when she attempts to establish boundaries. This is just their way of struggling to adjust.
Been There
Dear Been There: It’s hard to switch it up! People will push back.
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