Ask Amy: Sometimes it’s OK to play games in a relationship
I filed for divorce and moved out of his home over two years ago.
I made the decision to do this without telling my parents and siblings because I knew, even though they could see how unhappy I was, that they would not be supportive.
To this day they continue to invite him to family holidays and events, but become upset with me when I refuse to attend.
Since leaving, I have had little to no contact with my immediate family. Obviously, this is very hard on me, and it is also confusing for my children.
I have attempted to talk to them about this and it becomes an argument every time. They have told my children that I shut them out, but to me it feels like they shut me out.
I have met an amazing man, and we are now planning our wedding.
When I attempted to talk to my mom about wedding plans, her only response to my chosen wedding date was, “That’s my weekend to work.”
I struggle with even inviting my immediate family to the wedding for fear that drama will be started.
I want to move on with my life and hope that my family will be a part of that, but at this point I am at a loss for what to do next.
At a Loss
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