Ask Amy: Young marriage faces old problems
Dear Amy: I have been married for a year and a half. We got married super-quick without knowing each other well.
I am mostly happy. My husband treats me well and we have a baby on the way.
My complaint is that when we got married, he had a good-paying factory job that he had been at for three years.
Immediately after our marriage he got fired (for not showing up).
Since then, he has had 5 different jobs! He has quit or has gotten fired from all of them. He also does not seem to care if a job pays well.
I have had the same job for four years at a factory and make good money, but the job can be demanding.
I try not to nag him and instead encourage him, but it doesn’t seem to help. I am getting fed up. I don’t want to end my marriage over this, but I also don’t want to be the only responsible person worried about our finances.
Do you have any advice for me?
Worried Wife
Dear Worried: The first thing you should do is to face the reality that you are very likely going to be the main – if not only – financial mainstay for your family.
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