Ask Amy: Spouse considers leaving alcoholic wife
You should maintain control of your own story, if at all possible. Only discuss your sexuality when you are ready, and do so with the knowledge that you can’t trust everyone in your circle to respect your privacy.
Dear Amy: “Untexted in Texas” said her husband “Barney” is texting with a woman that he knew in high school.
You stated that his wife is correct in wanting this to stop. You state that his anger at her demand is proof that there is something untoward about his relationship.
Is he not allowed friends? What would you say if he demanded that she stop a friendship with a man she knew from high school?
This relationship could be a blessing for the wife. This friend might call the husband on his negative behavior. He might hear that in a way that he couldn't hear from his wife because of too much emotional baggage.
Upset
Dear Upset: Everybody gets to have friends. But when a relationship interferes with the marriage – as this one did – then it is important for the person conducting the friendship to be open about it.
In this case, “Barney’s” secrecy about the nature of the friendship created the problem, and that is fixable.
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